Beginner Help

Today, i’m going to take a step back to the beginning for my newer readers and talk about something that helped me the first year or so in my submission. Many today, find their Dominants online, rather than in person. Mostly, because we are afraid of admitting to ourselves or to the people around us…

Master’s Input

Hello all, From time to time I’ll drop in and add my two cents. However, this blog is primarily maeve’s responsibility so I’ll be intermittent. A little introduction on my part is in order so here goes: I’ve been involved in the lifestyle for over a decade and have switched for almost as long. I…

Submission and What it Really Means

You ever hear someone talk about the BDSM lifestyle and you get this hinky feeling, like OMG are they FREAKY!! So let’s just back up for a minute and go over a few things. First: BDSM. What is it? The term has several definitions, depending on who you speak to depends on what it means….

Honorifics: Not Just Respect, Common Courtesy

Recently, my sense of propriety has been stretched to its limits. In this post, I want to discuss courtesy and lifestyle protocol. Is it ok to use honorifics, like Master, in the wider BDSM community and expect others to address you as such? Or do we placate everyone’s sensibilities and comfort levels, and allow someone…

Struggling

First, my apologies to you dear reader. I have not written in awhile for a multitude of reasons, foremost being very busy. Recently, Master and a friend of his started a podcast. It’s funny, entertaining, and at least a little educational. It’s wonderful to hear Master’s voice for an hour. However, I have come to…

Self-care

This week’s topic in the Discord chat room required a bit more contemplation. What self-care do you engage in when you’re feeling down? Do you have a self-care routine when you experience sub-drop? What would you recommend newer submissives keep in mind when looking for self-care ideas? Let me answer the first question with some…

Service

Many of you may know that I am an active member of the Submissive Guide Discord channel. I enjoy the topics that Luna selects for our weekly discussions as they tend to lead to blog posts. This weeks topic: Service. What does it mean to you, what acts of service do you enjoy? How is…

Protocol

I am part of a discord channel called The Kink Network. It was started by a beautiful person named Luna based on her webpage, The Submissive Guide. Every week she selects a topic to write about. This week’s theme: Protocol. What is it to you, and do you participate in any in your current relationship?…

Master Returns

Master is finally home. My world is starting to turn in the correct direction again. While Master readjusts to civilian life, I still maintain autonomy over the blog. I do look forward to the day when he’s ready to start giving me input again. I realize I didn’t write much over this last year. However,…

Forgiveness

About six and a half years ago my youngest daughter and I were homeless. We trusted someone we thought was a friend and offered to help. However, this turned out to be the wrong thing to do. I was arrested and my daughter was taken away. I spent the next year playing the state’s game…

Radio Silence vs Communication

Many of you have been with me since I started this blog nearly three years ago. So you have followed me into some emotional extremes. As you may know, Master is out of the country on business. While I do not discuss his business, I do discuss how his absence affects me. As was previously…

Thank You!

So I’m sure someone will think this is a silly thing to celebrate, however, I recently reached 50 followers! For this, I want to say thank you to each and every one of you. I know I am not the most prolific writer, however, I do try to write engaging content that shows my view…

Valentine’s Day 2019

It’s interesting that people automatically expect to receive something from their significant other. The holiday is a purely commercial holiday. So why do we expect our loved ones to give us something? The reason is that it has become a social norm. I do not, nor do I expect to ever, receive anything from Master…

Depression, Separation, & Coping

It’s been awhile since I’ve written. I’m hoping from the title of this post you can figure out why. Depression is a sneaky devil. It’s not always feeling sad. Sometimes it rears its ugly head in the form of lethargy. For several months I’ve been feeling a loss of desire to do things. At first…

New Year, New Goals

The new year fast approaches, and the world is set about making resolutions that will be quickly forgotten in a matter of weeks. Many purchase gym memberships or home gym equipment in an effort to get into better shape. Alas, they will grow tired of trying to change, and the equipment will become a new…